Every day I observe events that deepen the fact that we still live in a male dominated society. Sure women can vote, work, and are free to make their own decisions. But when it comes to sex, or their individual sexuality, a grey area is formed. Things start to get taboo. It is almost as if it is more socially acceptable for a woman to be an object that is used rather than a human with feelings, emotions, desires, FANTASIES! I have a sense of where this is bred and this is why I have decided that I want to be a part of the change. I want to show to the world that I am a sexual creature as well. That I can enjoy my body, my sexual uniqueness and my fantasies as I please.
My intention is not to bash porn. There are plenty of great pornos I enjoy and masturbate to. However, I am picky when it comes to choosing one. I don’t want to see a Barbie doll, I want to see someone who kind of looks like me. I like seeing a nice cock, but I also want to see the man too. I want to know the woman is enjoying her scene and being respected; I don’t want to see her not having fun. I am sure most people have watched a porno where a woman is not enjoying herself and YOU CAN TELL. I can also tell you that if it was a woman watching, she was probably turned off and wasn’t able to climax.
Porn can change the way you think about people. People, especially women, start to become objects. They become body parts. They become things to be used rather than people to be loved. It is normal for women to be mistreated, humiliated, used, and insulted without their consent within porn. I am all for kink and BDSM but that is because there is a huge amount of communication, trust and CONSENT involved so everyone enjoys themselves. Porn is presented in a way that is easy for the man to project himself into the scene. You don’t see many from a woman’s POV. To be honest, hardly any attention is paid towards the woman’s pleasure, which is where this imbalance all begins.
The younger generations, who are on the brink of discovering their sexuality, watch this imbalance portrayed in porn and assume this is “how things are”. The cycle will continue unless we have people, women, step up and say “This is not how I pleasure myself – I have a choice”. I do not see any reason why a porno cannot present a woman as a human being who is equal to the man when it comes to her sexual desires and pleasure. Why can’t we see a relationship between the characters? Why can’t we see them both enjoying the interaction? In real life we have sex to enjoy ourselves, so why does that have to change on film?
I have seen with my own eyes women who go weak kneed during a passionate scene on film. I get it, it is hot. We LOVE that passion. And I know men like it too. Erotica, feminist porn, female friendly porn, ethical porn, whatever you want to call it, is a part of a growing movement. The sex-positive movement. And we are so excited to be a part of this growing campaign. We feel it is incredibly important for people to start stepping up and showing the world what sex is really like. We want to share the passion we feel together and we desire to evoke this feeling in others too.